The Outhouse Adventure!

I met a guy at the bus stop. He took the same bus as I did to go to work each day and we would usually joke and chat. He was just an all around nice guy. We both worked down town right across the street from each other so the probability was really high that some day we would meet at the food court when buying lunch.  It was not too long before that day came around. While I was having lunch one day he came over and asked if he could sit with me. I agreed and we spent the rest of our lunch hour talking and laughing about almost nothing. I kept looking at him and realized what a nice handsome guy that he was. But as often is the case, looks can be deceiving.

He was recently divorced and was still adjusting to single life. He said that dating again was the toughest thing to get used to. I was divorced as well and totally understood where he was coming from. He said that he was surprised that I was divorced, he said he couldn't imagine any man not wanting to be with me. I blushed when he said that and made some noises that I was not that special. “Well its true!” he said. “From what I know of you, I would love it if you would go out with me”. Before lunch was over we had agreed to go out on a date.

It started out wonderfully. He had some of the same interests as me so we seemed to get along just great.We took it slow which was fine by me because neither one of us wanted to rush into anything too soon. As time went on and we began to talk about the next step in our relationship we both confided in each other that we had not engaged in sex with anyone since our divorces. Both of us were pretty uptight about it. What if we did something wrong? What if we got into a bad relationship again? We made plans to go up to his cottage the following weekend just the two of us. It was going to be so romantic.

Well the day came and he drove down to my house to pick me up for our romantic weekend get away. As a matter of fact that’s exactly what I should have told him, “GET AWAY”, but like a love starved teenager I had fallen for a handsome face and a sad story. His idea of a cottage certainly did not match mine. It needed a ton of work. I had no idea what he was thinking to take me (or any woman for that matter) there. I am not a super particular person most of the time, but this was so far below my expectations that I was entirely speechless!  In the end, we had to sleep in a very small tent that he set up. We ate first. It was not much because we had to cook over an open fire, which was not that bad. When we finally crawled into bed I was exhausted. As I stretched out, something moved under my hand. I was looking at the biggest garter snake I had ever seen! I screamed like the girl I was and ran terrified into the night in terror. He ran after me asking what he could do. I said I was scared because that is not the type of snake I was expecting!

The next morning I politely packed my things, thanked him for a somewhat interesting evening and told him that I just didn't think it would work. I felt like a heel as he quietly drove me home, but I needed to look out for myself. I was concerned that his exaggeration of his cottage was just the tip of the iceberg. How could I trust him?

That night my friend told me about a fantastic link she visited that took her to hundreds of great dating sites. Since I had nothing to lose I decided to give it a try.

I joined at least three different sites that looked like they would meet my needs, but after a few months, I had almost given up hope. It was not as if I was not meeting men, it was just that there was no spark when we finally dated in person. That je ne sais quois is just so necessary for a long term relationship. I had 'settled' the first time around, and I was determined not to make the same mistake again. It was at this point that I met 'him'! He scored 100% on my checklist of what I wanted. We had interacted online for some time before he finally gave me his phone number. By this time I was starting to dispare that he did not like me or something. When I called him he seemed to sound a little familiar but I could not remember where I heard that voice. I could not believe how easy and natural it was for me to talk to him. I mean, by the second phone call we seemed to be completing each others thoughts already. He was just perfect! I was so glad I got that link. It was the best gift ever! . I was floating on air. I felt like a teenager again.|I was bouncing around like a teenager. Bubbling with enthusiasm and overjoyed. All my friends noticed and remarked on it!. During that time, I was so happy that all my friends kept commenting on it. What a joy he brought to my life!

We had a bit of a strange relationship in a way because I had never actually seen a picture of him. Whenever I had broached the subject, he said that he did not take good pictures and that he wanted me to see him face to face first.The day finally arrived when we decided to meet in person for the first time. When we talked on the phone the last couple of times, he had weirded me out a bit. He said that he was afraid I would  take one look at him and run the other way. Now I was a little confused. Maybe he looked like a Leprechaun! I assured him I would never do that.

He suggested that instead of picking me up it would be better for me to meet him at his summer home. He gave me directions and as I drove along I noticed that the scenery seem to be a little familiar. Then it hit me, the out house guy has a cottage up this way. “NO”( please God say it isn't so). But it was. I was in my third round of kicking myself when he flagged me down on the road. He had been waiting for me a short ways from his tent villa!

As he walked up to the car, I was scrambling around inside looking for something to deck him with. I finally decided that my purse was the only viable weapon. He caught my hands before I could do anything, told me to calm down and wait to see the rest of his surprise before I reacted. As he lead me to what I thought was going to be the old out house, I stopped dead in my tracks. I was stunned! I couldn't believe my eyes! There standing before me was the most beautiful cottage I had ever seen. He said he had never stopped loving me, but felt that he had to do something special to win me back.

He told me that he realized that he had handled the situation before pretty ham handedly. He said he had just purchased the lot, and had wanted me to see it before he started to do anything so that we could plan our cottage together. He wanted to surprise me, but realized that he should have told me what he was up to. After things when bad so fast, he did not see any reasonable way to salvage the mess. I felt like a complete ass for misjudging him so badly!

That was four years ago, and we are still going strong. We married a year later and life could not be any better for either of us.

I know I met him before I found him again on a dating site but it was that link that gave me a second chance with him and total happiness. My best friend gave me that link to happiness, and I have been truly blessed since that happened. Everything good in my life dates back to that simple gesture on her part. She walks on water in my eyes. I am forever grateful to her!

So if you are in that same lonely situation that I was in, and see no way out, then click the link below. It was my key to happiness, and hopefully it can be yours as well.

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