Did you know that the first few dates with someone new are the most critical? Most people understand this, but some do not. At issue are the sometime conflicting needs of being yourself, thus setting a realistic expectation that you can live up to, while at the same time trying to sell yourself as an already successful person, which may not be 100% true. Unfortunately, a lot of popular date ideas have hidden dangers that a lot of people are unaware of. To aid you in your quest, this post will try to give you some typical initial date activities, and the key things to avoid. Now if they do happen, you’ll be prepared and ready so you look like a together sort of person. Let’s begin.
Miniature Golf Ranges
This seems like a sure fire way to have some quiet time together where you are by yourselves. Perfect for innocuous chatting. You’ve got an easy evening of walking through a few mini putt holes, right? Wrong! Even this potential snuggle fest venue can have dangers around every corner.
First thing you have to know is that it is never a good idea to get too competitive. Ensure that you use the close contact to have fun, not compete. If you get too hung up on who wins, it’ll just get ugly in a hurry, especially if your date wins. Better to appear to be a good sport no matter who is victorious. And keep your jokes about long stiff putters, tiny holes and big balls to yourself!
Frisbee Tossing
Throwing Frisbees with your new love when on a picnic can be a lot of fun. There are some things you have to remember though. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!
On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. Losing control of you disc could end up with you getting wet retrieving it, or else it hits somebody and you might just have a battle royal on your hands. Better to set up in a nice clearing or sheltered area someplace away from the crowds. Besides, you do not need her comparing you to all the muscle bound he-man types that frequent beaches in the first place!
Going to the show is very popular for a couple of reasons. The right selection of movie and snacks will put your girl in a relaxed and erotic mood. Movies give you a break from holding up your end of the conversation for a couple of hours, and afterwards is a natural topic of conversation that can last another hour or so with minimal effort. Just make sure you avoid the next couple of pitfalls.
Likely the first surprise for you might be the price. If you have not been to a movie in a while, you may be surprised. Twenty five dollars plus another twenty for snacks is not unusual for a first line movie. IMAX is even more expensive than a regular movie.
The choice of movie is your second most important factor. If it’s a new movie, make sure you reserve tickets by phone. Plus, I’d advise against any movie where Brad Pitt takes his shirt off. Sure, she’ll be turned on by him, but when you’re back at her place, and you take your shirt off, she’ll compare, and you won’t come out on top (or bottom for that matter).
Choose a good romantic chic flick to turn her on. You know, something where the leading man is always considerate and supporting of the leading lady. Light comic movies are second best. Even a movie like meatballs has a romantic ending. So even the right comedy movie can end on a decent tone. Avoid non-romantic themes. Clint Eastwood was a handsome rugged dude in his day, but most of his movies were anything but romantic. They would leave your lady cold at the end of the night!
Going To A Live Concert
Make sure that the band is to her taste! It’s no good taking her to see a reggae show if that’s what you’re into, but she’s not. Choose what she likes. Remember to keep her safe at all times. If you go to a venue where there are likely be be a lot of obnoxious drunks, try to keep a low profile. Better yet, avoid such places!
If you have been to a loud performance, there is a good chance that both of you will be partially deaf afterwards. For a short time after leaving a loud venue, it is easy to mis-communicate. So if you think she just invited you to do the horizontal mambo, make sure that is what she really said before engaging in that activity. You do not want to come across as a sex fiend, or a rapist.
And remember that if you have been dancing up a storm all night, you will likely be stinky with sweat afterwards. Make sure that you take a second to wash and apply some deodorant before you leave the club!
Carnival Rides
Taking your honey to an amusement park would appear to be a no-brainer fun time. Some rides, like roller coasters, are sure fire ways to get her to grab you. It is a great venue for fun rides, challenging games, and eating sweet treats and street meat. Accidentally winning a stuffed toy has a side benefit giving her a reminder of your time together that day. Just remember that there is a reason why carnies are in business, so do not set any expectations that you will win. With most carnival games it is more luck than skill that has you walking away with anything. You can go broke trying, and you can tick your date if you spend too much time trying to win.
Food can be another gotcha. The food may taste good at the time, but eat sparingly. Who knows how sanitary the facilities are that produced it. Rides and food do not mix well, and since most rides give you a thrill by making your stomach flip-flop, there is a strong chance that you might lose your collective cookies. Play it safe and make sure that your evening ends enjoyably.
And one last tip: when you’re on the roller coaster, there is usually a picture taken of you as you’re at the scariest point, which you can see and buy when you finish the ride. Try not to look too scared. Better to look as macho as possible, even if you are wetting your pants a little at the time. Brave face, soldier!
The Penny Arcade Date
Even if your date is not into gaming, the both of you can still have fun with it. Of course she might surprise you and whip your hind end. On that note, you should never boast ahead of time about how great you are at gaming in general. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.
Java
Even the seemingly safest date possible – the coffee date – has some problems you have to anticipate. And this is most likely to happen if the date is going particularly well. If you extend your date so that you consume several cups of coffee, you can get so buzzed that you start talking like a machine gun. Your hands start to twitch and you end up looking like an idiot. Do not drink more than a couple of cups. At that point, swing over to something decaffeinated, like a juice or water or herbal tea. You will look more worldly, and she would be more likely to admire you because you are seemingly health conscious.
As Forest Gump would say, "That is about all I have to say about that". If there is a date I missed, the trick is just to think ahead. Go through the whole date in your mind, and anticipate what could go wrong. Have solutions ready to go if the worst does happen. By doing this, you will look like a mature individual that she would be happy to be with. The type of person that she will break dates for rather than someone to break dates with.
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